An Interesting Conversation about Modest With a Guy (Part 4)

This feels a bit repetitive sometimes... Mainly because this is my second time talking about this topic with a member of my family... and maybe because I've also discussed this issue with this particular member of my family before when we were talking about his daughter and fashion and what she has been exposed to already. While this conversation did not turn out the way I would like, I still found it interesting anyway...

Guys #4 also a cousin. has a ten year old daughter.

Basically, in a nutshell because our conversation was a bit long and heated.... He says that no matter what you wear, a guy is gonna look at you if you are well endowed. He said that should be between the guy and God. He also said that if he wears something that causes a woman to lust after him, he should not be resposible, because that is between her and God.

I understand his point. I do. We should all be focused on our own relationships with God and sometimes they manifest themselves differently depending on our own situations. How someone dresses, as long as they are literally not going around naked or half dressed, shouldnt matter because it is just fashion... If only it were that easy...

We've all heard the phrase: a chain is only as strong as its weakest link. Well, so is a family. And so is the body of Christ - the church. The church (and by church I mean all believers worldwide) can only be as strong as its weakest members (believers). 1 Corinthians 8:9 tells us this:

But take heed lest by any means this liberty of yours become a stumblingblock to them that are weak.

We are warned to be wary of those that are weak. Even though Jesus has freed us from the laws of the Hebrew Scriptures, this verse shows us that freedom does not mean there are no restrictions... It's like young children growing up. When we are toddlers there are many rules and we have to live within those rules. As we get older, the rules change to give us more freedoms. Freedoms that also come with more responsibility. Sounds like a super hero kind of thing: with great power comes great responsibility...

But its true. We women have a power, and with that power comes a lot of responsibility. A responsibility that we have to figure out how to work out for ourselves. Some feel convicted to wear skirts. Others don't. It's not about that, but about showing the world that you are about GOD and not about the things of this world.As my cousin said

Some women, as an extreme example, chose to wear long dress, long sleeves and high closed collars...no make up and hair in a bun at all times (i know that's not what you're saying) and these women do so because they feel in the heart of hearts that thats what God expects and that's what makes God happy. I garauntee that for those women that do do it for the glory and benefit of God, they are going to be blessed. It just so happens that everyone's boundary that is found in their own heart is between God the spirit and that individual. Righteous Amish women make God happy, but so does the CHrist-loving lady who's with her husband and children playing at the beach in a bikini. Well, let me restate... it's my belief that if she has Christ in her heart, that he still smiles on her and is happy with her, he could be totally disgusted by her bikini for all I know

We can get a good idea from the Bible, but we also know that God looks at our hearts. 1 Samuel 16:7 "But the LORD said to Samuel, "Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart." Right there the heart. Yet, what does it say about God's power over our hearts if we dont show outwardly what is in our hearts?

As women of God, our outward appearance should reflect a heart that is after God and for God first and foremost for always.