First off, he was very upfront about how he is physically more attracted to girls that are dressed in more immodest attire, than girls who wear modest attire. Correction. He finds that it is easier to "lust" after girls who aren't dressed as modestly. Note that while modest dressing prevents those thoughts from entering his head immediately, it doesnt mean they don't enter into his head EVER. Now, since we had this conversation over the internet I was able to look up a photo describing what I meant. So I searched good and found a picture
Using this picture, guy #2 basically said that while he may have an easier time keeping clean thoughts about the girls in the top part of the picture, he is more likely to date or be interested in a girl from the bottom. Not because he thinks it's sexy or not sexy but because to him, showing more skin makes him feel like the girl is confident and he is attracted to that confidence. The girls on the top ghe felt did not exude the same confidence that the girls on the bottom seem to have in bucket loads. His exact words (and he is probably making up the statistic) are as follows:
it all depends on the guy but 7/10 will go for the girl who dresses a little bit to show off more skin simply because of they look at them as a more in control confident woman.
Now, he did mention there was a difference between a girl a guy has known as a friend first and got to know her confidence levels, and a guy seeing a girl at a restaurant, club or even just college campus. He personally feels that while some guys might be "hound dogs" the majority will go for the girl who shows more skin because to him it equates to confidence. He did say that a girl who obviously exudes confidence, and that he knows personally would be a different case because then he would be aware of her confidence levels versus a girl who he knows as well, shows more skin and doesnt have the same confidence levels.
So guy number two says that our clothes make a difference, and not just in the lusting after sense, but in how guys perceive us. While we don't have to show skin to actually show confidence, some guys do see it that way. As he said "I dont pick up on the subtle hints." Which I can say is true for a lot of the guys I know. They don't always realize what they have in front of them, or they aren't quick to pick up on little hints we may try to throw their way.
I do believe there is a lesson to learn here, and it's not to show more skin if you are a confident young lady. We should ensure that everything we do shows that we are confident in who we are and how we look. Even if we aren't trying to get a date or find someone, showing confidence can help land a job, can show others that just because we are Christian women and believe in being homemakers doesnt mean we have to be mousey and dull and sit in the background practically like a servant! We can have vibrant personalities that are all different! As I have said before, I am re reading Little Women for the hundredth time, and each of the March girls definitely has her own distinct personality. They are busy and exude confidence. Other people see that confidence and they treat the girls accordingly. That is the lesson. We should not be afraid to shine God's love, the very thing that makes us confident.